Monday, November 25, 2019

Elizabeth Gilbert on the power and simplicity of kindness


No matter where we are and what we have, one can do an act of kindness. Here is a link to Elizabeth Gilbert's experience of kindness in the midst her going through a difficult time.  https://youtu.be/RlUtPTGWIQc

As we move through the season of holy days, the focus of this blog will be shifting. It will highlight inspirational experiences as well as kindness resources. If you have something to share, please email it to UnitedInKindness@InterfaithSonoma.org 

Love and blessings, Tara

Tuesday, November 19, 2019

What Is Yours To Do?


Jillian and Rochelle Roberts



More and more unsheltered people are making their homes along the Joe Rodota trail that runs between Santa Rosa and Sebastopol. It's heartbreaking and sometimes overwhelming. Two sisters in Sebastopol have decided to do something about it, creating a Facebook page Sonoma County Acts of Kindness

You can read more about their work and how you can get involved in this Sonoma West Times and News article, Kindness Wears Many Faces. What is yours to do?

Monday, November 4, 2019

Kindness to Yourself

Child holding her face
Photo by Carl J on Unsplash

Just now I remembered, it's Monday!, followed by Oh, crud! I didn't post a Monday kindness blog.

I've been away at a deepening spiritual retreat and returned to the aftermath of evacuations and power outages. One could clearly excuse my forgetfulness. Then there's my inner critic, reminding me that I thought about it on Saturday, had all Sunday afternoon and evening to do something, and I didn't. 

So, today's practice. When you "blow it," be gentle to yourself. Remember that inner one that strives to do their best, no matter what, and sometimes they forget. It's not the end of the world, it's not even proof that they are a bad person. It's simply a moment of forgetfulness.

So today, be kind to yourself, whatever happens, or doesn't happen. Your gentleness and loving self-acceptance matter.

Monday, October 28, 2019

Kindness in Difficult Times

Man on bench, woman walking by
Photo by Saad Sharif on Unsplash

This week I have been away at a training. The night I flew to New Mexico, Sonoma County caught fire. Miles away from my family, my friends, and my community I stared at a text from my daughter asking what I wanted her to take when they evacuated.

Saturday night as “historic” winds were expected to drive the wildfire, our training group gathered for a powerful prayer from a Pueblan elder. I was able to acknowledge the deep grief and fear, embody it. And by the end of the ceremony, I was full. Some of my colleagues came up to hug, to reassure, to comfort. I found myself saying, “I love you, and I need to be alone right now.”

Compassion is a gift of our humanity. Please stand with those in pain and sorrow; please don’t help us until we ask then support us in ways we want to be supported, not what you think we need.

There were many gifts that night of prayer. Perhaps most important, I learned not to rush in with comfort, with Kleenex, with reassuring words. I learned to let folks be present to their experience, to companion them with my presence. That is more than enough.










Monday, October 21, 2019

The Three Gates

Garden gate
Photo by Fiona Naughton on Unsplash

I had a lot of meetings last week. Sitting with a cup of tea this weekend, I realized just how cranky and critical I was in many of them. And there was the conversation with a friend about my frustrations with another friend. Hmmm. My reflections made me feel a bit squirmy (do you know that feeling?).

I was reminded of the three Sufi gates -- before I speak anything there are three questions to ask myself:
          Is it true?
          Is it necessary?
          Is it kind?

Many of my conversations would have failed to pass through the last two gates into speech. Perhaps even truth was in question, had I been able to stand in another person's shoes.

This week, may you pause before you speak, so that whatever you say is true, necessary and kind.









Monday, October 14, 2019

Kindness Ripples Out


Photo by Daniel Mingook Kim on Unsplash
I was recently reminded of the power of the Buddhist practice of loving kindness or Metta. It is quite simple in not always easy. It centers on the following phrases:
  • May you filled with loving kindness.
  • May you be well.
  • May you be peaceful and at ease.
  • May you be happy.

The power and the blessing of this practice comes from who the "you" is. Often it begins with someone you love or who loves you. Then it moves on to someone toward whom you are neutral. Next is someone who pushes your buttons then someone you still hate. For each of these chants, the invitation is to speak from the compassion in your heart, don't make it a ya-da-ya-da of meaningless repetition. Bless the person to whom you offer this gift.

Another powerful practice is to bless yourself. "May I be filled with loving kindness, may I be well. May I be peaceful and at ease. May I be happy." Let it resonate and open up those places that feel shadowed, dark, unacceptable. Loving kindness has a deep, healing power that ripples out and reminds us of our connections to each other. May this week bring you the blessings of loving kindness.






Monday, October 7, 2019

The World Is Our Mirror


mirror
Erin Profaci, unsplash.com

Have you noticed how when you're feeling good, the world seems to be a kinder, gentler place. The weather refreshes or impresses you, even if it's pouring rain. People around you seem friendlier, smile more often.

Our attention is affected by how we feel, what we think, our sense of ourselves. What are you reflecting out into the world? Are you a place of peace, compassion, welcome? Here's a simple practice that can assist you in reflecting those qualities out into the world. The practice comes from www.RandomActsOfKindness.org which has 50 suggestions. Here is the one I chose for today: Write a kind message on your mirror with a dry erase marker for yourself, your significant other or a family member.

It's such a simple practice -- and it makes a world of difference. Here's to kindness!